Living Your Life on Purpose

I've had an incredibly wonderful and eye opening weekend and because of that I've made a decision... 

I refuse to be defined by my limitations or so called set backs in life!!!

NOTHING holds me back... NOTHING!

Would you like to now more about the thoughts behind that statement??? Well stick around folks because I will not lay down and let life decide for me what I am. 

I get comments a lot like "oh you have so much burden placed upon you and I just don't know how you handle it as well as you do"... 

Well sure I do, but so do you and so does your neighbor and your sister and Mom and best friend!! I mean my trial in life is that I have a husband who hurts... Constantly and can't provide for our family. And yes we have 3 kids and I have two jobs, a house to clean, 5 people to feed and a husband to care for... 

But off the top of my head I can think of so many loved ones who have hardships to bear that I would never ever ever wish upon anyone... We are given our trials because they are specific to us and our journey. We get to look at trials as BLESSINGS that mold and shape us into the kind of humans that can help other humans just by being around us. HOW COOL IS THAT!!??

You are not defined by your struggles and trials, instead you get to choose what your life is going to be and how it is going to look. Everyday we get to choose the words we speak to ourselves. Those words are the things that define us and our relationships. If you go around telling yourself that you are sad and lonely and that no one loves you... then guess what. You will treat people as if that is how they feel about you and in turn THEY WILL FEEL that you don't want to be around them.

So when you notice that you are speaking negatively to yourself or thinking negative thoughts about your abilities or being judgmental of others here are a few tips and tricks to get out of those negative thoughts and into POSITIVITY...

1. REDIRECT- Have a statement, phrase, scripture or song ready to replace those dang thoughts and turn you to the positive. I use a song most often that reminds me that I am a child of God. Works every time.
2. PRACTICE- Figure out the top 5 negative/limiting things you say to yourself and turn them into positive declarations then say them to yourself in the mirror each morning and night as if you believed them... promise they will start to feel true to you.
i.e. "I am so messy and disorganized, I never get anything done"
turn it into... "I am a being of order. I create order wherever I go and get so much accomplished that lead me to my goals."
3. MOVE- get your body moving as soon as you feel down. Your lymphatic system can actually store negative energy and the only pump for your lymphatic system is MOVEMENT. Do a couple of jumping jacks as you say positive things to yourself or stretch a little bit. Get those juices flowing!! Getting outside helps too!!
4. SET GOALS- You are a being with divine POWER... set some goals that stretch you and excite you. Put them on a vision board and look at them daily to remind yourself of the things you are capable of. Imagine yourself taking that amazing trip with your spouse and imagine each detail...  Ideas will start to come to your mind as you do this that will help you reach that goal.
5. LOVE OTHERS- just try to serve and love as much as possible... give of yourself and you will get so much more in return. You will get what you want when you help others get what they want. It's an eternal principle!!

Pick one of these and get started right now. I promise you will find yourself being free of expectations, judgement and negativity. Move toward being the best YOU that you can be. Don't let life decide what you will be. Become what you value and love.

Do We Give Stress the POWER??

In talking with my husband last night I came to a major realization. It was one of those talks that really needed to happen yet it was super late and a bit frustrating at times because we were conversing about his health and his view of his health now and in the future.

It felt good to get everything out and while we weren't totally settled on a happy conclusion at the end I think we are both a bit more on the same page about his health and committed to searching for answers.
My realization came after I already crawled into bed.
The MAIN thing he and I could BOTH work on TOGETHER that would benefit both of our lives and not cause him to be thrown into an attack (most likely... and those of you who suffer with this nasty unpredictable disorder know exactly what I mean by that)... We could both improve and practice how we handle the STRESS LIFE hands us.
BIG PICTURE IS SIMPLE... MOST OF THE TIME WE HAVE LITTLE CONTROL OVER THE THINGS THAT HAPPEN TO US (I am not talking about the things we make happen... that I believe we have some great influence on). We ONLY have control over our reaction to those "events" and how they affect us.
We are stressed on the DAILY. We make ourselves sick because of stress. We talk about stress, we complain about stress and we end up letting stress run our lives.
How would you like to handle life with a peace and calmness? How would it feel to be able to care deeply and passionately about people, projects or events yet not get completely bent out of shape when they/it don't meet your expectations? What would you do if you had more time and energy to focus on the things you can control and let everything else work out for your good? What would that change? What could you accomplish if you weren't bogged down by stress?
Let's dive into that this week.
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I'm learning right along with you here... Let's ride this journey together.
What useful ways do you find that you distress or diffuse stress?

Have you heard of this wonderful Lady...

I have been reflecting on my life and how I would like to move forward and what I would like to focus on. I took a positive step this afternoon after not feeling super motivated to do much of anything for a couple days... Can we say RUT!! I played a couple of YouTube videos of Tiffany Peterson's. She is a motivational speaker/sales coach based out of Utah. I have been able to attend a couple of her events and I come away transformed each time. I thought I would share this little "nugget" as she would say, to help whoever out there needs a bit of a confidence boost to reach their goals. I love that she says "Confidence is KEY to achieving any goal or success that you want in your LIFE". How wonderful is that!!
Please enjoy her Success Tips Video